Five Steps to Positive Parenting Teenagers

Five Steps to Positive Parenting Teenagers

Teen Triple P gives parents the skills to help their teenager adjust to the changes and demands of adolescence. It encourages parents and teens to build and maintain strong relationships. There are five basic steps to Triple P's positive parenting of teens. They are:

Create a safe, interesting environment

Try to motivate your teen to pursue activities, take on responsibility and do it safely. Around the home, they could cook, do handyman projects or write a journal. Just make sure they know how to competently use the oven, appliances or power tools, and that you keep an eye on computer use and have safety restrictions in place.

It's also good to encourage teenagers to be involved in meaningful, organised activities away from home – at school or other clubs. Check there's appropriate adult supervision. And always know where your teenager is, who they're with and what they're doing.

Have a positive learning environment

When you give your teenager more responsibility and show you value their opinions, ideas and contributions, you reassure them that you know they're growing up.

Involve them in decision-making, which is the chance for them to learn how to make good choices and solve problems. Start simply with minor issues – like planning a holiday – and graduate to decisions that have longer-term impacts, such as choosing a school to attend. Also take time to talk to your teenager because, despite what you think, teenagers still need your approval and attention. And if you see your teenager doing something you like, let them know. They'll enjoy the praise. And you'll find they'll probably do it again.

Use assertive discipline

When your child was young, you set the rules. But now that your child is a teenager, it's good to negotiate. The idea is to for you and your teenager to decide together which rules and responsibilities you consider important to your family. You can also agree on the rewards too – the privileges that they can enjoy in return.
There may be compromises, on both sides, along with some trial periods and reassessment. But you'll both be clear about what's expected and what will happen if the rules aren't met. So there's less chance of conflict if the rules are broken.

Have realistic expectations

Everything changes so quickly when children become teenagers, so parents can often become confused about what to expect. It helps to talk to other parents to find out what they're facing with their teens. If you help your teenager learn how to deal with temptations, you'll be more confident about giving them more freedom.

And don't forget that nobody's perfect. Not your teenager (who will make mistakes from time to time) and not you either. Don't get too frustrated or upset. Everyone learns through experience.

Take care of yourself as a parent

Raising teenagers can be a worrying and uncertain time. So it's important to look after your own needs. Make sure you're getting some support, companionship, intimacy, recreation and exercise if possible. You'll find parenting is so much easier when you make time for yourself. It's all about balance!

Five steps to positive parenting

Here are some ideas to get you thinking about how to put the five steps to positive parenting into practice: